My Grandfather’s Eulogy

My notes from my Grandfather’s Eulogy today, I am exceedingly proud to be his grandson.

Charles Fred Maloy – Family Thoughts/Eulogy

  • I am going to begin with 2 Corinthians 4:16-17
    • “16 So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. 17 For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison.”
  • Grandpa lived his life HOPING in the FUTURE GLORY of Christ; he’s there now.
    • Psalm 71:14-18Grandpa had this passage (and the others) underlined in his Bible
      • “But as for me, I will hope continually, And will praise You yet more and more. My mouth shall tell of Your righteousness

And of Your salvation all day long; For I do not know the sum of them.

I will come with the mighty deeds of the Lord God; I will make mention of Your righteousness, Yours alone.

O God, You have taught me from my youth, And I still declare Your wondrous deeds.

And even when I am old and gray O God, do not forsake me, Until I declare Your strength to this generation, Your power to all who are to come.”

  • My Grandfather was clearly a special man.  I truly see him as a Patriarch of our quite large family — in a lot of ways I compare him in my mind to Abraham.  Both men of great faith, who loved their families and were continually blessed in life, but used their blessing to bless others even more.  Anyone in their sphere of influence was as good as family.  Likewise, their families (mine & Abraham’s) revered and honored them, like we are today.  And the stories (and laughter) we have shared over the years, will become a beautiful memory of the man we love, the Patriarch of our clan, our family.  Here are some of those memories & stories.
    • First my Uncle Len will share his thoughts.  Uncle Len was Grandpa’s Brother, Business Partner, Cohort in Crime, and Best Friend.
    • INSERT Family Thoughts (pages below)
  • Something personally on my mind since last week as I wrestle through emotions & theological thoughts, has been this:
    • Jesus Wept.  In the Gospel of John, we see the story of Lazarus, Mary & Martha, in the times surrounding Lazarus’ death – when Jesus arrived at their home, he Wept — even though Jesus had the full knowledge of the Kingdom of Heaven, he himself was the Gospel, the Way, the Truth & the Life — even in light of all that, Jesus wept.  Jesus wept because someone he loved was dead, and Jesus wept because people he loved were in grief and mourning.
      • Jesus was moved with profound sorrow at the death of his friend and at the grief that his other friends had suffered. In addition, this sorrow was mixed with anger at the evil of death.  Jesus’ example shows me that heartfelt mourning in the face of death does not indicate lack of faith, but honest sorrow at the reality of suffering and death.
      • We follow the lead of Jesus with our sorrow — but in our sorrow, we can cling to the hope, and the promise that death will not win, and our (Husband, Father, Grandfather, Uncle, Brother and friend) was not consumed permanently by death — through Jesus, Grandpa has had defeated death — and is now in Heaven with his Lord & Savior.
      • We have sorrow, we weep, and we lament the death of someone so dear to us.  But we know, the sting, the permanence of death is no more.  Because Fred Maloy, my grandpa, is with Christ.  Death does not have the victory here.
  • Romans 8:18 & 37-39
    • “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us.”
    • “But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us.  For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
  • I wanted to end with an old Puritan Prayer –
    • “Fill me with peace, that no disquieting worldly gales may ruffle the calm surface of my soul… by thee all heaven is poured into my heart, but it is too narrow to comprehend thy love… O that I may love thee as thou lovest me, that I may walk worthy of thee, my Lord, that I may reflect the image of heaven’s first-born.”  – Need of Jesus, Valley of Vision


Family Memories & Lessons Learned from our Dad & Grandpa:
— from perspective of others (not all me)
(so many of these could have a scriptural reference in the notes…)

Lessons we learned from our Dad & Grandfather:

  • Entrepreneurial Spirit
    • From a young age he had the desire to earn and create opportunities
      • Paper boy, car hop, odd jobs in stores
    • He hitched a ride to college and graduated from University of Missouri
    • 50 year career with State Farm – he LOVED to go to work every day (whether he worked or not…)
  • Positive Thinking
    • We nicknamed him Zig Zigler because he was ALWAYS positive. Zest for life!
    • Things were never a problem, always possibilities
    • He never criticized or spoke negatively
    • He was a man who was always able to calm tempers in a meeting that was quickly going downhill
  • Inclusive
    • He loved many many people, and rooted for them all – no strangers
    • Treated everyone as family, biologically or otherwise
    • Hospitable, everyone was always welcome at a meal
    • Always up for a conversation with Scott about Mizzou or SLU basketball
    • A good sport at Grandparent’s Day doing crafts that involved lots of gluing and cutting & playing Trivia against other grandparents!
    • Being a grandfather to other kids who didn’t have a grandparent on Grandparents’ Day.
    • Grandpa was always there to hug & kiss – and always told us how much he loved us. He was always there for us when we needed him.
    • Grandpa had 15 grandchildren – although I suspect many more would consider him to be their grandfather, father, brother, uncle, etc – but in all that Grandpa actually only had one child by birth, along with one grandchild, but many more through adoption and marriage – however, to all 15 grandchildren, he was truly 100% their grandfather. If nothing else, this speaks to his character, the patriarch of our family.
  • Fun
    • Never was a man MORE ready for a trip to Ted Drewes… always.
    • You never knew when grandpa would randomly break out into song
    • He definitely loved to “sightsee” while driving – lots of quality time in the car J slow driving!
    • Spending time going to the movies, the Butterfly House, The Fox, The Circus, Sky Zone and FroYo just to name a few.
    • An avid & faithful fan of all the kids sporting events including early morning soccer games, & late night basketball games even graduations, piano recitals, plays, & musicals!
    • Loved sharing stories of his childhood and growing up. His stories were just amazing!
    • He made everything from watching movies, playing football on the beach, playing chess, and just talking more fun — just because it was with him.
    • We loved making goofy faces at the cameras on Space Mountain at Disney
    • Grandpa & Honey always joked that each year they had an Anniversary they we celebrating 10 years of marriage, so they recently celebrated their 120th Anniversary… guess we better call the New York Times to go ahead and get that article going J — in all seriousness however, they filled those years with more memories than some people do in a whole lifetime.
  • Christ First
    • He lived by example and not just words. He reminded us that our Christian lives should be joyful, not just a daily set of rules.  He completely embodied the Fruits of the Spirit (loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, and demonstrated self control).
    • On Christmas Eve – Christmas Story was ALWAYS read from Luke before doing anything else.
    • Generous to a fault! Always giving thankfully to the Church, and gave above that to many missions, missionaries, camps and support groups…
    • He was always in prayer for us: he prayed each morning for us, he prayed before he saw us, he prayed while we were together, and he prayed for us when we left him.
    • Grandpa actually preached at Concord before Dr. Werner was called to be the Pastor. Folks talked about for weeks how worked up he got, and how they’d never seen Fred so fired up!  He preached about the importance of a Godly Pastor to preach the gospel, to build a church for his family to know Christ and grow in the Word of the Lord.  He was beyond passionate about his family truly knowing Jesus…
    • Gathering the family in a circle during a holiday holding hands and expressing his gratitude for the love of his family & pointing us to Jesus as the giver of life & only hope for our salvation.  Grandpa always shared the Gospel, spoke of the Gospel and wanted to give family and friends every opportunity for the hope & joy he had in life.
    • Grandpa gave me a Bible when I graduated HS, he wrote in the front to read John 4 often, which was the story of the Samaritan woman at the well – he wrote, read John 4, it teaches us how to love. Then Grandpa and I got to go Samaria, to Jacob’s Well years later where John 4 takes place…
    • He has touched so many lives & in so many ways it would take a lifetime to recount them all… But we can say that his life was an endless colorful story of love, tragedy & adversity – yet his love of God only made him stronger. He has been our angel here on earth.  And God has called him home for even greater things.  Dad would want us to carry on the love of Jesus to everyone, just as he did.